Some folks say that during a personal crisis or a dramatic upheaval in their lives, it helps to disconnect from the Web. They like to shut down Twitter and Instagram, turn off Facebook, and get away from all the problems that a digital lifestyle can bring.
But is it really helping? Facebook may not be the problem, the problem may be you.
If you're having a fight with friends, family or significant others through digital communications instead of face-to-face, the natural reaction is to cut off digital communications. But what it comes down to is a balance of your digital and real lives.
It’s a bit of a chicken-or-egg dilemma. We have a tendency to blame technology-mediated problems on the technology itself, as though Pinterest created homemaker insecurity or Instagram created FOMO [fear of missing out]. And though technology can exacerbate any number of woes — maybe you hate your needy boyfriend because he texts too much — few crises occur exclusively online. And so, when someone announces “I need to unplug,” very often what they really mean is, “I need to escape a part of my life or psyche that is most visible to me when I see it online.” Self-hate gets projected onto the screen; turn the screen off and the feeling goes away, right?
Well, no. But the Band-Aid of Ludditism can provide temporary solace.
Sometimes what you really need is to take a break from the digital world and refresh yourself. When you get back into the swing of things, you'll find that you missed updates from your friends and family.