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Divorcing? 5 things to do online right now

Divorcing? 5 things to do online right now
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Just the other day, I saw a rant from a friend on my Facebook news feed. In seven sentences, she provided complete and painful intimate details about her marriage that ended three weeks ago because of her husband’s betrayal and lies.

My father used to say, "Things that happen in the home stay in the home." Divorce is tough enough. If you’re feeling anger or rage, I suggest not running to an online public forum to spill your guts. The post never goes away. You never know who might read it and share it.

Since our offline and online lives are so intertwined, here are five things you need to do fast when a divorce is on the horizon.

1. Change your online passwords

For many couples, a real sign of trust in their relationship is sharing their passwords with their partner. I think it's a terrible idea that actually shows a lack of trust, but it turns out I'm in the minority.

A recent Pew study found that 67 percent of couples share at least one online account password, and 27 percent have shared their email password.

That's fine and dandy until you're splitting up. At best, you don't want your "it was mutual" ex prying into your post-marriage personal life; at worst, you don't want that "crazy" ex stalking you, hijacking your accounts or trying to damage your reputation. It happens.

Go through every online account you have and change your passwords. Make sure you're doing this on a gadget that's yours and yours alone. If your soon-to-be ex really is the crazy, jealous type, you might want to skip to number 4 on this list and then come back. It’s super easy to install a spy program on a phone, computer or tablet.

Here’s how to create a strong, unique password. Many people know to change a password but they forget that their partner probably knows the answers to account security questions, like where were you born, your first car and the street you grew up on. So, don't forget to change your security questions as well.

Next page: Dealing with shared services

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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